‘Nobody deserves that –What Trump said about his alcoholic brother who died at 43

President Donald Trump stood in the White House’s grandly decorated East Room on Thursday afternoon and read from a teleprompter as he explained how his administration will launch “a massive advertising campaign” to tell children to never try drugs.

Then the teleprompter halted as the president went off script.

“I learned myself. I had a brother, Fred. Great guy, best-looking guy, best personality – much better than mine,” Trump said as those gathered in the room, many of whom have lost loved ones to the opioid crisis, laughed at the overly confident president’s rare jab at himself. “But he had a problem. He had a problem with alcohol. And he would tell me: ‘Don’t drink. Don’t drink.’ ”

The president rarely talks about his older brother, Fred Trump, an airline pilot who struggled with alcoholism and died in 1981 when he was just 43. The two were separated by eight years and were constantly competing for their father’s attention, causing their relationship to be rocky at times. President Trump has said that he looked up to his older brother and that his death was “the saddest part in what I’ve been through.”

“To this day, I’ve never had a drink,” Trump told the crowd. “And I have no longing for it. I have no interest in it. To this day, I’ve never had a cigarette . . . He really helped me. I had somebody that guided me. And he had a very, very, very tough life because of alcohol. Believe me – very, very tough, tough life. He was a strong guy, but it was a tough, tough thing that he was going through. But I learned because of Fred. I learned.”

In sharing his experience on Thursday afternoon, the usually boastful president briefly revealed a more reflective side of himself, trying to connect with those in the room – and those watching at home across the country – who have lost a loved one because of addiction.
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“This lets them know that he is one of them,” said New Jersey Gov. Chris Christie, who is leading the White House’s commission on combating drug addiction and the opioid crisis.

Fred Trump’s death more than 30 years ago seems to have shaped the way the president thinks about substance abuse and addiction. His emphasis on abstinence appears rooted in what has worked for him personally – but it’s also rooted in the 1980s, when then-first lady Nancy Reagan urged schoolchildren to “just say no.” Scores of researchers since that era have concluded it doesn’t work very well, however, and some advocates say the approach often deepens the stigma of addiction and suggests that those with a problem should be able to stop easily.